2.28.2006

Communication Redux

I'm still learning. On Saturday I misinterpreted "be honest" as it related to my feelings on her working out for 2.5 hours Saturday morning. I ignored the first plea to be honest - I figured it was a ploy to test and see if I'd learned my lesson. But after a couple more pleas to be honest, I relented.

What I thought she meant was "Let's have an open and honest expression of
ideas. I want your input." What she meant was "validate my request to work out." I'm not a stupid person. But for some reason, I do stupid things.

I was honest. I said "I've had a very long week at work, and I think it'd be nice if you only went to one class. I'd like to spend some of Saturday morning together. But if you really want to go, go." The response, in retrospect, was predictable. It was "opinions can't be wrong. Except that one."

It seems that sometimes women store information for years knowing that one day, it'll be useful. I am pretty sure that during the dialogue she pointed out that one time in college I went drinking on a Thursday night instead of staying home with her.

My whole goal is to avoid that kind of dialogue. It wasn't a big deal to me if she worked out for 1 or 2.5 hours. But she wanted me to be honest. Isn't that kind of a line in the sand that shouldn't be crossed?

I have a feeling that I'll be making these same mistakes 10 years from now.

4 comments:

Kel said...

It's such a fine line between clever and stupid

The Kept Woman said...

I went back and read all the way through the Cubs/White Sox-fan-training post...thanks...I needed the laughs.

And yes, I will let you in on a secret...women do have a 24 chromosome that manages the "file of useless but vitally important information at some future date" section of our brain. It's quite useful actually.

Muskyboy said...

You should know better. Hell we all should know better.....but we don't.

Kel said...

I think you all DO know better - but like poker, it is all about the game . . .

you are still trying to find out which cards we are holding ;)